BE INSPIRED

As some of you may or may not know...fashion is an interest of mine that is developing into something more everyday.

The other day I was reading the fashion magazine ARISE which focuses mainly on Afro-Caribbean talent whether it be their music, modelling, designing, writing or just inspiring actions.

This magazine never fails to catch my eye on the magazine stand mainly because the models they have on the cover are just nothing less than amazing and this week the cover featured a model named Arlenis Sosa. I loved her look and outfit on the cover so immediately bought the magazine; whilst reading, it was mention that she was very ill on the day of her shoot...I thought 'ye well on America's Next Top Model they are always told that you just have to push past an be professional' and carried on flicking through the pages...when I finally got to her spreads....................................................wow.

I mean....I cannot say anything short of that word because (Lord have mercy) I did not expect the pictures to be THAT good, I was discussing it with another person and they could not believe that she was not well when she did this shoot. I'm not sure why but something about her really just inspired and connected with me, I read up on her and found out that she (of Dominican descent if you wondered) is only 22, was signed as soon as she walked into an agency in new york and TWO WEEKS later got booked for vogue AND vouge italia!!!!

SAY SU'M!!!!

The designers she has walked for include some of the most prestigious designers and Fashion houses in the world including Ralph Lauren, Michael Kors, John Galliano, Emanuel Ungaro, Hussein Chalayan, Alexander Wang, Jean Paul Gaultier, Hermes, Bottega Veneta, Anna Sui, Jason Wu, Mariella Burani and many more.

Please tell me you are not inspired.
In relation to this topic...I was at the itv show called Born to Shine this Sunday which features young talent in the UK, and it was truly amazing to see what young people as young as 13 have achieved and have passions for. For example the girl who wrote the song being used for the olympics (Dionne Bromfield - Spinning) is only 15 and wrote it at only 13! Boy...don't ask me what I was doing at that age *covers face*.

Well...congrats to all these people and people...be inspired.

watch the video here

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W5StF0UJ_lI&feature=related

and check out the Arise magazine if you feel like it....

LATERZZZZ SMEXY SKANKS Xx*D*xX

I DID IT FIRST

Was having dinner with my yardi frardis (you'll get to know about them in due time) and Leah posed a question to the table....

"If you found out your man cheated...would you be angrier if it was with a white girl or an Asian girl"

Now....Leighan gave her response (basically that she wasn't sure) , then I said

"Why is he cheating in the first place....actually all I'm saying is that if he is cheating...just know that I was cheating first"

LOL....just thought I'd share this :)
PS. I would like to think I would never cheat (or get cheated on) *innocent face*

(From left to right) Leighan, Debbie (me) and Leah

England riots: The whites have become black says David Starkey

Please watch the clip below.......

*Takes a breath*

where do I even start with this idiotic beastly excuse of a creation.

1stly its annoying how certain people are just sayin 'ahh its jobless uneducated badly raised yobs who took part in the riots' no! there is an underlying issue that provoked that , just to be clear i am in no way condoning the actions but things cannot be looked at at face value.

2ndly how dare this excuse of a human say that 'black' is (his words) a particular sort of violent, destructive, nialistic, gangster culture adopting a jamaican, patois that has been intruded in England. EXCUSE ME!!! You cannot say that black people's culture is violent...believe you me if violence was so

innate to us slavery would not have happend because we collectively would have risen up and murdered their clarrts kmt!

So slavery...the blacks were not violent against their agressive slave masters who treated the slaves inhumanely...by beating and raping them. Also, blacks never used their tribalry antics as calous violence...rather it was only used to protect their land and families or to kill with the main priority of survival, now compare this to the Western world where in Rome and other places...violence, slaughtering and human butchery was not used as a survival technique but rather an avenue for entertainment. Now tell me whose CULTURE is violent.

For such a 'learned' man he really has no common sense, for him to have forgotten the meaning of the word culture from his early history lessons, the saying must be true that the more learned a person is, the more they lack in common sense.

Thirdly, the 'them and us' culture...you are separating yourself from these people whom you discriminate against, are filling your mind with in depth versions of your own prejudiced thoughts about these people and are bundling them all under the same umbrella. You can't go off what views you had when the norm was to believe 'black is broke and black is bad' and try to apply this to our society now, NO! In this society 'black is bold and black is beautiful'

Fourthly, the (common) rap argument.....hmmm.....as I always say...if it takes just a bunch of lyrics to move someone to do the wrong thing...then that individual is quite weak in their own self. Yes I will say this over and over again...there are different types of rap so you cannot generalise and say all of rap glorifies a violent nature because it really does not (not even going to continue with that argument because it could go on forever). Secondly, I thank God for this woman stating the point that she did....she says rap, the media, advertising, society and even parents are doing exactly the same thing...they all enforce the paradigm that MONEY=SUCCESS, if you havent got money you are not succeful and therefore not happy, and with this mindset...people that cannot afford material possessions...went to take what they thought would make them happy or things that they could sell and (in their mind) make their looting effort and selling opportunity...a success. Thirdly, how can you say rap glorifies rioting on the streets....he needs to sight these 'examples' he has apparently seen b'cos only song that comes to mind about revolutionary action is Kirk Franklin (revolution) and he is a gospel artist so I doubt violent

riots is what he meant.

I mean, this guy says at these times we need 'plain speaking', but please if you are going to speak then please...mr man...plainly speak SENSE! not irrational, idiotic, personal racist perceptions of soceity.

Lastly, in referrence to his point about 'the black male culture militating against education'. REALLY!!!!???!!! Number one...look at Obama...is he not a black male and is he not educated, look at nas, tupac, malcolm x and others....are they not black males and yet were they not educated (nas dropped out of school but educated HIMSELF and malcom x read the whole dictionary during his time in jail) so do not even dare blatantly say that to be a black male is to be against education...if you even look at young black males today many who may be doing youth centre jobs, dj'ing, athletics or other 'vocational' career jobs...they most if not all have at least a self educated, college level qualification or degree under their belt, also...in black CULTURE it is most of the time heavily taught to the children that University is the aspirational level at where you can decide to leave the education system....personally speaking...I had never heard of anyone not wanting to go to university till I went to a predominantly white school and I remember feeling so baffled by their suggestions of not going to University (and by the way...these were kids in private education not in 'some poor area of london') so, I would say...that the black male CULTURE is to aspire and succeed in whatever area you find yourself to be intrested in because, for example, if black men (and black people in general) put their mind to what they do, whether that be education, sport, music, drugs, or any criminal activity (419), there is one thing I know....their aim is to succeed! So THAT is our culture.

Worth the wait

Whatever position people are in, we always (or should always), at one point or the other, ask ourselves 'is this worth it'....especially in relationships and things of the such that we invest effort and time into...whether that be their formation or their deterioration.

The fact that many do not want to (or may find it difficult to) admit t is that....if it is done for the right reasons....most times...certain things are WORTH THE WAIT.

Take for example a couple who have been together...yes they had good and bad times like every other couple...but their relationships cons outweigh the pros. One (or both) of them figure this out and decide to end it...although this is not the easiest thing to do (for various reasons) if it is done genuinely for the right reasons...they would find out that it was WORTH THE WAIT.

Reasons being:

1. If they broke up earlier for inadequate reasons...then they would find themselves either being drawn back to that dead end relationship, trapping themselves in an inevitably destructive duo.

2. If they broke up later...they may not feel they are able to move on, as they have put so much into their relationship OR they could be so bitter to one an other that the break up is just an appauling one. 

Moral of the story is...whenever it is done...if it is for the right reasons (that you have given the r.ship all you can and genuinely cannot give anymore if it is not leveled out by ur partners input) then, dont worry, it will be worth the wait and you WILL get over it and move on.

another example is that if you are attracted to a person, and find that the feeling is mutual HOWEVER you both have not been in a position to act upon your feelings for a period of time...don't force it...forcing it usually can make the attraction fizzle out or even turning a person off totally. But if they both just 'go with the flow' (for example...if the time is not right...wait, if the occassion arises...take it) they will find out that this too was WORTH THE WAIT and may be suprised as to what they develop or just experience. 

Many people (boys and girls) have the mentality that 'it's now or never' which is hardly ever the case....we need to learn to wait! Everyone is aware of the saying 'good things come to those who wait' and make exceptions...but it seems to be the case that they are makin exceptions for the wrong things.

Boys:

Scenario: Seeing a girl they are attracted to and just HAVING TO chat her up or even get to know her just to ask her out

The girl may have seen u, and may have even taken a liking to you...but there is something more attractive about a guy that knows how to wait, rather than one that sees you and in a hot second he is by, infront of, or behind u...just so eager....naaaah thats not hot

rather a guy that waits...may even meet you again, in a better setting or in a better situation where he can calmly approach you without the rush of testosterone to his pelvic brain (his d*ck) and you can start talking and see how things go from there.

Girls:

Scenario: Having a guy approach them and wanting to 'get to know them' or dance with them, or link them, date them...etc....

WAIT!!! CHA!!! Why is it that you MUST take the first offer you get???

YAH TOO FASST!!!

Many girls have the mentality that...'well he likes me so...y not' when they should be thinkin 'well he likes me, so...y not WAIT, and really see wagwan'

(Im not saying that the notion of spontinaity (why not) is not a good thing at times, but when it is used as an excuse to do everything and anything...that is not helpful to ones self)

Both guys and girls get themselves into some scotch bonnet stew because of their lack of ability to W.A.I.T! Because they get all their blood pressure up and running over the first slice of bread that presented itself to them...and they ran with it...but those who know better KNOW that the second slice is better than the first (LOOL at my examples). 

And when they have committed to or run with this first person that came their way...they might later meet someone they prefer...but they now have to force themself to keep their relationship going because...yes they chose it, and they dont wanna disappoint themselves or their partner. Whereas if they had waited...they may have found out that their current partner would have been better off as just a friend to them.

Now, I am not saying that I am perfect in anyway BUT what I am saying is that there are certain things I have done that I now wish I had waited to do and other things I did wait for and the wait has been well worth it.

Just some thoughts......................

Life of Fire

Life is like a burning house:

Your journey is the run

Time is so short but feels like a lingering while (a lifetime even)

Things, people and time come and fly right by (either in tact {for the minute}, or in flames)

and coming out standing determines how much you fight on and push forward

You spend so long going through the heat but on the other side...is your peace and rest

Try as you may to look to others for guidance on how they pursue their success and safety but follow too hard 

and you will be engulfed by the flame around you (your reality), so look to them yes...but return to YOU.

You may emerge burned, bruised and bleeding...but people want to know the story of the survivor not the 

irrelevant things that caused the imperfections.