Worth the wait

Whatever position people are in, we always (or should always), at one point or the other, ask ourselves 'is this worth it'....especially in relationships and things of the such that we invest effort and time into...whether that be their formation or their deterioration.

The fact that many do not want to (or may find it difficult to) admit t is that....if it is done for the right reasons....most times...certain things are WORTH THE WAIT.

Take for example a couple who have been together...yes they had good and bad times like every other couple...but their relationships cons outweigh the pros. One (or both) of them figure this out and decide to end it...although this is not the easiest thing to do (for various reasons) if it is done genuinely for the right reasons...they would find out that it was WORTH THE WAIT.

Reasons being:

1. If they broke up earlier for inadequate reasons...then they would find themselves either being drawn back to that dead end relationship, trapping themselves in an inevitably destructive duo.

2. If they broke up later...they may not feel they are able to move on, as they have put so much into their relationship OR they could be so bitter to one an other that the break up is just an appauling one. 

Moral of the story is...whenever it is done...if it is for the right reasons (that you have given the r.ship all you can and genuinely cannot give anymore if it is not leveled out by ur partners input) then, dont worry, it will be worth the wait and you WILL get over it and move on.

another example is that if you are attracted to a person, and find that the feeling is mutual HOWEVER you both have not been in a position to act upon your feelings for a period of time...don't force it...forcing it usually can make the attraction fizzle out or even turning a person off totally. But if they both just 'go with the flow' (for example...if the time is not right...wait, if the occassion arises...take it) they will find out that this too was WORTH THE WAIT and may be suprised as to what they develop or just experience. 

Many people (boys and girls) have the mentality that 'it's now or never' which is hardly ever the case....we need to learn to wait! Everyone is aware of the saying 'good things come to those who wait' and make exceptions...but it seems to be the case that they are makin exceptions for the wrong things.

Boys:

Scenario: Seeing a girl they are attracted to and just HAVING TO chat her up or even get to know her just to ask her out

The girl may have seen u, and may have even taken a liking to you...but there is something more attractive about a guy that knows how to wait, rather than one that sees you and in a hot second he is by, infront of, or behind u...just so eager....naaaah thats not hot

rather a guy that waits...may even meet you again, in a better setting or in a better situation where he can calmly approach you without the rush of testosterone to his pelvic brain (his d*ck) and you can start talking and see how things go from there.

Girls:

Scenario: Having a guy approach them and wanting to 'get to know them' or dance with them, or link them, date them...etc....

WAIT!!! CHA!!! Why is it that you MUST take the first offer you get???

YAH TOO FASST!!!

Many girls have the mentality that...'well he likes me so...y not' when they should be thinkin 'well he likes me, so...y not WAIT, and really see wagwan'

(Im not saying that the notion of spontinaity (why not) is not a good thing at times, but when it is used as an excuse to do everything and anything...that is not helpful to ones self)

Both guys and girls get themselves into some scotch bonnet stew because of their lack of ability to W.A.I.T! Because they get all their blood pressure up and running over the first slice of bread that presented itself to them...and they ran with it...but those who know better KNOW that the second slice is better than the first (LOOL at my examples). 

And when they have committed to or run with this first person that came their way...they might later meet someone they prefer...but they now have to force themself to keep their relationship going because...yes they chose it, and they dont wanna disappoint themselves or their partner. Whereas if they had waited...they may have found out that their current partner would have been better off as just a friend to them.

Now, I am not saying that I am perfect in anyway BUT what I am saying is that there are certain things I have done that I now wish I had waited to do and other things I did wait for and the wait has been well worth it.

Just some thoughts......................